How to Work Together to Transition into an Adult Child’s Bedroom

When Lizzie Haney returned to her parents’ house near Grand Rapids, Michigan, for her first Christmas vacation after college in Chicago, she discovered two changes in her room.

The first – her mother’s “grown-up transformation” of the space, removing old posters and adding new, fancier bedding and decor – felt like a loving gesture, a nod to her mature tastes. Lizzie. The other felt like a personal attack.