She cheated on me and didn’t say anything until I asked

I need your help. I’m going through a difficult time, I’ve been with my girlfriend for five years, but recently I started to suspect that our five-month-old son isn’t mine. When I asked her about this, she told me that there was a time when we had a misunderstanding and she had unprotected sex with another man. I don’t remember that time, which makes it hard to believe what she told me. What intrigues me, however, is the fact that she never told me about this and only confessed after getting proof that the child is not mine. I love her, but now I can’t trust her anymore. What should I do? Thomas

Given that four out of ten marriages face infidelity by one of the partners, it’s worth talking about. When one partner is unfaithful, it can cause intense feelings of pain and betrayal, which in turn can really shake the foundations of a marriage or relationship. Infidelity is one of the most challenging relationship problems couples have ever faced. However, when both partners are fully committed to the healing process, relationships can survive, and sometimes the journey can actually result in deeper emotional intimacy and a stronger relationship.

Dealing with being cheated on is a challenging experience. Learning how to deal with a cheater can help you regain control of your life and determine the best path forward.

While hurting the cheater may feel satisfying in the moment, it won’t help you heal or feel better in the long run. The emotional and mental effects of being cheated on can be long-lasting, leading to insecurities, low self-esteem, distrust, and other negative feelings.

If you decide to stay with your cheating partner, it’s crucial to take time for yourself. This will allow you to process your emotions and reevaluate your decision. It is essential to consider whether you will stay in the relationship to grow stronger together, out of sadness or simply for comfort.

After being cheated on, it’s important to get tested for sexually transmitted infections. If you decide to stay with your cheating partner, it’s also important to ask them to get tested before resuming the sexual relationship.

It is important to remember that the reasons for betrayal often have little to do with the person who was betrayed. While understanding why this happened can be part of the healing process, it’s essential not to blame yourself for your partner’s actions. Communication is key and having an honest conversation about both partners’ needs is important for the relationship to continue.

No matter what you decide, it’s crucial to be honest with yourself about your wants and needs moving forward in a relationship.

Also, accept that you will never understand the reasons for your partner’s infidelity. Of course, your ability to deal with this will largely depend on your partner’s dedication to not repeating the terrible mistake. Remember that forgiving someone is different from condoning what they did. Be patient with yourself and remember the goal.

If you cannot forgive your partner’s infidelity, consider seeking help from a relationship expert or family therapist. They can teach you various methods to get rid of pain and move forward in life. If there’s one thing you need to know for sure, it’s that after you work and heal, you will be able to fully trust and love once again.

Evelyn Khorono Lufafa is a consultant psychologist at the Sermoterapia Counseling Foundation

Trust is important Martin Ssebyala. There’s nothing like love without trust. If you don’t trust her, then you don’t love her. Just let go and move on.
Otherwise, each of you will just be wasting the other’s time. This will end in tears or domestic violence.
End the relationship Generous Nakie. According to her answer, the child is not yours. Why is love unfair to genuine people?
Unfortunately, your love alone will not be enough. A relationship must be balanced and this girlfriend of yours has already shown you that she is not ready to settle down. Let go, heal your broken heart and be ready to fall in love again.

Go away
Joana Joana. Sorry for the traumatizing experience you are going through. Although you still love her, once trust is lost, the rest becomes meaningless. Hopefully, you will muster up enough courage to get out of this toxic relationship.

DNA at birth is essential
Mac JB Bukenya. One reason I advocate DNA immediately after
delivery is to avoid such nonsense and financial convoys. Unfortunately, this is the world we live in now.
You cannot fully trust anyone, even if it is your partner. Wait for her apology, Dennis Baliddawa. Stop caring, be silent. If she loves you and wants to be your wife, she will change and apologize. When she does, ask her to marry you and make things official. I have a feeling she’s just acting up and a proposition will help her calm down.

Know your worth
Judy victorious. If you can’t trust her again, it’s best to move on. When you take a break from a toxic relationship, you find clarity and the ability to know your worth and what you deserve. You can’t say you love someone who has
It’s been shown that they will cheat on you when it’s best for them.
She’s a toxic person, Rosie Prince. I can’t imagine a relationship without trust, loyalty and honesty. If it were me, I would have left a long time ago. But then again, why would anyone live a double life? She is a dangerous and toxic woman.

Forgive her
David Mukisa. To err is human and to forgive is divine. If you truly love your woman, please forgive her and together find ways to make the relationship work. Couples therapy can help you because here a professional will guide you on how to move forward without any blame or guilt.

Good luck.
You will find love again Bartolomeu Diaz Nsubuga.
Thomas, this relationship is toxic and you should end it as soon as possible. To all the wonderful women on this platform, is there anyone willing to help Thomas heal from this heartbreak?