My wife wants to get pregnant by a stranger

DEAR DEIDRE: My girlfriend and I are desperate to have a baby, so she is considering having an affair with a stranger to get pregnant.

I am 53 years old and I know that my fertility has been very low since the time my ex-wife and I were trying to conceive.

My current girlfriend is 41 and still has her period.

Since we met four years ago, we always knew how much we wanted to start a family together.

Even though my chances are slim, we have been trying for six months without success.

We can’t afford IVF treatment and a sperm donor, but I suggested we have sex with another man, just once.

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I said that the man would never know the truth and that we could raise the child as our own, and she was more than willing to agree with that idea.

We are now considering creating an online profile and looking for a match.

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DEIDRE SAYS: I fear there are huge problems with this plan.

Not only will this man not have been screened for genetic issues like donors are in clinics, but there is also still a risk to sexual health in having unprotected sex with a stranger.

You also have to consider the rights of the child if your plan is to work. Wouldn’t it be unfair to hide the truth about their biological parents?

Consider seeking advice through the Infertility Network (infertilitynetworkuk.org, 01424 732361).