Jennifer Lopez once told Ben Affleck that he is too “guarded.”

Ben Affleck seemed to learn a lot about himself while there a relationship with ex-wife Jennifer Lopez. One of the things that the Hustlers The actor helped him realize how much he needed to loosen up.

How Jennifer Lopez Helped Ben Affleck Open Up

Affleck decided that Lopez was right about how defensive the Air star may be from time to time. Lopez has always offered a certain level of transparency that her former partner did not. In addition to being an actor and singer, Lopez is also very active on social media. She has been giving her followers advice on relationships and beauty routines for years, while also offering a glimpse into her personal life. Affleck witnessed the power of the Lopez brand after the two tried to have a night out.

“We went out with her and all the kids, through Times Square, and the s*** was fucking bananas. I thought, ‘Oh, my God.’ There was a lady, smoking weed, in a full purple skintight suit. She’s a heavy lady, and she starts filming backwards, with “J.Lo!” like a herald. Then everyone gets it. They’re all tourists, whatever, they’re just moving,” Affleck said in a not long ago Heart to heart interview.

However, Affleck is not on social media at all. Although he is known to be candid in interviews, Lopez felt Affleck could open up more.

“I don’t know if there’s anyone who understands Instagram better than her,” Affleck once said The Hollywood Reporter. “She even gave me a speech this morning before this interview. She thinks the experiences I’ve had have made me very wary. And she’s right. I look at these things as landmines, where if you say one wrong thing your career could be over.”

Affleck pointed to an interview he did where he discussed Jennifer Garner and his battle with alcoholism. The Daredevil actor felt his words were misinterpreted. This led to the kind of headaches he didn’t want to have often.

“So yeah. It’s hard,” Affleck said. “But anyway, so (Jennifer Lopez) tells me today, ‘Relax, be yourself.’ Have fun. You’re actually a nice guy who’s real and sincere, and you just seem so serious.” Do I seem serious? But as in many things, she is really right. And she loves me. She watches me. She’s trying to help me. So it’s like maybe I should listen to her.

Ben Affleck wishes Jennifer Lopez wouldn’t be so open about their relationship problems

Following their divorce, it seems Lopez’s openness is causing concern for Affleck, who reportedly prefers to keep their issues more private. Lopez recently visited Interview with Nikki Glaser to discuss various topics, including her much-discussed topic separate from the Gone girl star. According to OK!Affleck saw the interview coming to some extent. But he wasn’t too happy about it.

“Ben knows she will talk about the breakup forever. He would prefer it if she didn’t talk about it. But he thinks she will always speak out,” a source once told the publication.

At the same time, though, Affleck is fine with Lopez using whatever methods she needs to move forward with their relationship.

“People deal with loss and break up in their own ways, and this is what Jen had to do, and Ben has to accept it,” the source added.

Meanwhile, Affleck has chosen to address his martial issues more privately. The Gigli actor hasn’t said anything about his divorce since he and Lopez announced their separation in a joint statement.