Dear Abby: My husband’s family cut him out of the will after his mother’s suicide

DEAR ABBY:

When my husband, “Sid,” was a young adult, his mother died by suicide. A few years later, when his maternal grandparents died, his mother’s two siblings inherited his grandparents’ estate. Other family members have commented that it seemed wrong for Sid and his sister to be disinherited from their mother’s share of the estate. Because Sid and his sister were young adults, they did not have enough trust or support to question their aunt and uncle. Their father was out of the picture. Forty years later, this is still a source of pain for Sid and his sister. They feel deliberately disinherited, while their close relatives act as if nothing has happened. Is there any way to approach the family to resolve this pain? – Sad for SID IN NEVADA

DEAR SAD:

I strongly suspect that ship sailed 40 years ago. However, I am not a lawyer. Your husband and his sister should ask this question to a lawyer who specializes in wills, estates and trusts, to see what exactly happened then and whether anything can be done now to change it.

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