5 Early Signs a Man Really Has Husband Potential, According to Psychology

Chemistry is a killer. Let’s face it: once your lips click together, the super glue that holds you together is cemented in place and you’re hooked. This always happens. Your body ensures that you don’t miss each other.

So what’s the problem? Only a fraction of these hot and heavy relationships have any staying power. Some experts estimate that 80 percent of “chemistry-driven” relationships fail within three months.

Here are five signs that your new man could be the real deal (despite the chemistry), and how to know if what you’re feeling is legitimate and if the man on the receiving end is worthy of your love.

Here are five early signs that a man has real husband potential:

1. He treats the restaurant staff kindly

No, I’m not talking about manners… well, at least not about eating habits. A wise woman once said to me, ‘Look at how your husband treats waitresses. You’ll see a lot about his character.’

Kindness and generosity towards blue-collar and pink-collar workers is a genuine quality that is not easily faked. When you fall in love at first sight (and it’s real), it’s often because the kindness you see in him triggers a chemical reaction. According to a study published in Archives of sexual behavior, women want kindness in a partner more than anything.

2. He has a great relationship with his female family members

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How does it work? he treats his mother? Sisters? Ex? When I met my husband (my second, I met him at age 52) he was still taking his ex-mother-in-law on trips away from her rehab center once a month, even though he had been divorced for years.

He still treats me with old-fashioned chivalry to this day and that’s one of the things I like most about him. According to a 2017 study done by dating app Match, 73% of women sadly believe chivalry is dead – change your mind!

3. He is busy and content with a productive hobby or career

If you fall in love with a man who is on fire about his own life and still takes the time to make you a priority, that’s a good sign. The universe might be able to create happily ever afters with broke, jobless boys; after all, nothing is impossible.

But do you want that? Chemistry with a man with no income can be fun, but is rarely the real deal. This is evident from a study by Western Sydney University90% of women would rather do that date a man who is ambitious and earns his own money.

4. He’s not your type

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Countless people who fall in love at first sight – the couples who claimed they knew they were the one very early on – say the same thing: ‘We met in a very surprising way. I never expected to be with someone like him. He’s not my type at all.”

When you are attracted to someone outside your ‘type’, NB. It might be the real deal. Research from the University of Toronto confirms that dating outside your type is harder, but it can often be very rewarding.

5. You’ll still like him in two to three months

Somewhere in the two to three month period you can take a look at your relationship. How strong is the chemistry? Has it changed for any of you? When you cool down for a moment, check the following: How fascinated are you with each other? You want to look for signs that he is “interested in you” beyond attraction.

Curiosity and fascination are two powerful indicators that this is the real deal, especially when the first shoots of chemistry start to fade. Crushes always melt you at first and break your heart in the end. Between falling in love and heartbreak, many experiences await you.

Love at first sight experiences can turn your world upside down and some are the real deal. Now if you’re in the middle of that roller coaster ride, buckle up and hang in there, have fun and enjoy how it unfolds.

There is There’s nothing like a mind-numbing crush. Just show up at that two- to three-month point and be honest about what’s happening. If he still likes you, that’s the best sign of all and you may have fallen in love at first sight with a man who is up for a long-term relationship.

Catherine Behan is a highly trained dating coach, freelance writer and editor. She currently works as a Law of Attraction and Success Coach, using her expertise in EFT to help people attract abundance into their lives.