I’m a psychologist and these are the two choices you can make that depend on your overall happiness

An evolutionary psychologist revealed two choices you can make that depend on your overall happiness.

Dr. Gad Saad, professor of marketing at Concordia University, sat down with Diary of a CEO podcast host Steven Bartlettwhere he claimed to know the secret of happiness.

Saad, who often speaks out about the beliefs he believes are destroying logic, science, reason and common sense in the world, said the most important choices you will make in life are your job and your partner.

He explained: ‘By far the two choices that will give me either the greatest happiness or the greatest misery are the choice of my partner and the choice of my profession.

‘LLet’s break it down very simply, if i wake up next to a person in bed and i say ‘oh god damn, not this one again’ i’m not off to a good start, but if i wake up next to a person and i say ‘oh my god how did i do that got together, what a pleasure to wake up next to this person”, that’s good.

“After waking up to this sweet person, I go out and do things in my daily activities that give me existential joy, what an amazing day… It all gives me a lot of purpose and meaning.

‘And then in the evening I return to that sweet person, I have cracked the happiness code. The devil is in the details, what can I do to maximize my chances? I make the right choices.’

‘Life is a statistical game, there are statistical quirks, so all I can do is increase your chances of happiness. I can’t guarantee anything, you could never smoke and get lung cancer, but not smoking certainly greatly reduces your chances of lung cancer.’

Elsewhere, Saad revealed that the secret to a happy marriage is aligning your core values, saying ‘birds of a flock together’.

He explained, “The butterflies, the hormones don’t last. That doesn’t mean that 25 years later you still won’t feel sexually attracted to your partner, but that won’t carry the train.’

“My wife loves the fact that I’m a truth teller, my wife loves the fact that I’m pure. For example, neither of us have ever been the type to try to arouse jealousy in the other.

“A lot of people will say, ‘Oh, you know, if you stir up jealousy that spices things up, my wife has never done anything, but that’s because she has a very high standard of personal behavior.’

In the three-hour podcast, Saad covered many other controversial topics, claiming that the most dangerous man a woman will ever meet is her husband, adding that they usually go into ‘homicidal rage’ due to suspected cheating, as it is evolutionary.

Although he said a scientific explanation may make it seem justified, it is morally wrong.

‘We all have the desire to wander, but we do not necessarily materialize that desire through overt behavior…

“One of the difficulties of life is how to navigate the Darwinian strings that pull in different directions,” he said.

Bartlett said he hopes people listening “know that everything here is not an endorsement of anything, but an evolutionary explanation for something.”

Elsewhere in the interview, the psychologist revealed the key factor most likely to predict child abuse in a household.

He claimed that having a stepparent in a home with children is the “number one predictor” of child abuse – stating that it is “a hundredfold more predictive” than any other sign.

“If there’s alcoholism in the home, if one parent has been abused in the past so they model that behavior on their children — (they’re) all reasonable (reasons),” he told the podcast host.

“If there is a stepparent in the family, there is a 100-fold increase in child abuse if the family does not consist of two biological parents,” he said.

The conservative psychologist further explained that this makes the Cinderella fable a universally known story.

“It speaks to an evolutionary principle of the nasty stepmother (who) is only differentially mean to her stepdaughter — she’s actually very, very nice to her two biological daughters,” he said.

Saad then used packs of lions as an example to explain the “evolutionary explanation.” He said packs are highly social groups and there is very high parental investment, unlike other feline species where the males are used only for reproductive purposes.

“(In the) lion pride, the males invest heavily in their children (and) what ends up happening is that there are two or three dominant males in a pride and they throw out all the young males that are emerging now,” he explained.

From there, Saad says the “frustrated young men” wander around trying to take over a pride.

The author went on to say that the young lions will challenge the dominant males of a group and rebuff the attacks for a while until they grow too old and give in or die.

“When the new Lions come in, what’s the first thing they do first on the agenda? (They are killing the children) in a complete systematic genocide of child murders,” he said.

He said this is done because the males do not want to invest in another male’s cubs, and although the females initially try to fight, once they lose they become “sexually receptive” to the new males in the pride.

Saad added that he does not scientifically justify childhood sexual abuse, but biologically explains why it occurs.