International Men’s Day 2024: Expert explains the emotional toll of male infertility and how to provide mental support

Have you ever wondered why men are often silent about their struggles, especially when it comes to something as deeply personal as infertility? For many, the journey to parenthood is filled with hope, but when challenges arise, men are often expected to remain strong and calm. However, the emotional burden can be overwhelming; feelings of inadequacy, guilt, or isolation can silently build up. Unfortunately, these struggles rarely get the attention they deserve. Infertility is more than just a medical condition; it is an emotional journey. For men, breaking the silence and seeking support is a crucial step toward healing and hope.

On this International Men’s Daywe spoke Dr. Radhika Potluri, Regional Medical Lead and Fertility Specialist, Oasis Fertility, who explained the emotional impact of male infertility and how to provide support.

The silent burden of male infertility

According to StatPearlsInfertility is generally described as the inability of a couple to become pregnant after one year of regular, unprotected intercourse. Male factors are the sole cause in approximately 20% of infertility cases and contribute to another 30-40% of cases.

“Despite these statistics, societal norms often stigmatize men, forcing them to suppress their vulnerabilities. This ‘silent burden’ can lead to… feelings of isolationinadequacy and stress, further complicating the emotional toll of infertility,” said Dr. Potluri.

The emotional impact of infertility

According to one 2023 studyAccording to reports, the prevalence of emotional and mental disorders among infertile individuals ranges from 25 to 60%, which is a significant percentage. There is a high prevalence of anxiety and depression among these disorders.

Infertility can evoke a range of emotions. Here are some listed by Dr. Potluri:

• Shame and inadequacy: Cultural expectations that link fertility to masculinity can erode self-esteem and hinder openness.
• Guilt and self-blame: Men may feel guilty about their inability to conceive, leading to self-doubt.
• Stress and anxiety: The uncertainty of treatments, combined with financial pressure, can increase stress levels.
• Depression and isolation: Prolonged struggles often lead to withdrawal, which worsens feelings of loneliness.
• Relationship tension: Emotional and financial pressures can put a strain on communication and intimacy within relationships.

Practical steps to support men’s mental health

• Encourage open communication: Create an environment where men feel comfortable sharing their emotions. Open discussions about their fears and hopes can build stronger connections and ease emotional pressure.
• Seek professional support: Therapists specialized in fertility problems offer coping strategies tailored to individual needs. Couples therapy can also help improve communication and resilience during the journey.
• Connect to peer support: By joining support groups, men can share experiences, get practical advice and feel less isolated. Peer validation can promote a sense of community and understanding.
• Prioritize self-care: Activities such as exercise, hobbies, meditation and spending time outdoors can relieve stress and improve mental health.
• Choose a healthy lifestyle: A balanced diet, regular exercise, adequate sleep and avoiding harmful substances such as tobacco can improve both mental well-being and fertility.
• Educate and empower: Understanding infertility and its treatment options can reduce anxiety and allow men to make informed decisions with confidence.

Breaking the stigma: message from the expert

Dr. Potluri concluded, “Infertility is a medical condition, not a reflection of masculinity or personal worth. Seeking help is a sign of strength and shows your commitment to both your well-being and your journey to parenthood. Men struggling with infertility are not alone and there are resources available to help them cope with the emotional challenges of treatment.”

“Infertility must be approached with empathy, and it is crucial to remember that mental health is just as important as physical health. Open communication, professional support and self-care are essential in managing this journey,” she added.

(Disclaimer: This article contains information from an expert and is for informational purposes only. Therefore, we recommend that you consult your own doctor if you are facing any health problems to avoid complications.)