Husband congratulates himself on why he refuses his wife’s request to stop seeing his colleague

A man has been hailed for refusing to end his open marriage after his wife asked him to stop seeing other people.

In a now-deleted Reddit post, an anonymous man, 34, shared his marital dilemma, recounting the challenges faced after his wife, 32, pressured him to open up the marriage, only to regret it later.

The couple had been together for eight years and married for four when, a year ago, the wife proposed the idea of ​​exploring an open marriage.

She explained his need to explore his sexuality and relationships with others, he wrote, even hinting at divorce if he refused. Initially opposed to the idea, the husband eventually said he agreed after a month of “she was constantly talking about it.”

“She said she felt the need to explore her sexuality and relationships with others, and that she might consider divorce if we didn’t try that,” he wrote in the post on the Reddit subreddit r/AITAH. “I was completely against the idea. But after a month of her constantly talking about it, I agreed, thinking that maybe it could also bring new energy to our relationship.”

While the wife quickly embraced an open marriage and met several new partners, the poster indicated that her initial attempts to meet someone had failed and even taken a toll on her self-esteem.

Six months into their open marriage, he met Amanda at a work event. In a short time, Amanda and the poster developed a significant bond, he said, adding that Amanda was aware of his open marriage.

“We hit it off really well. We see each other quite frequently and honestly, she’s fantastic,” he said.

The man said that as his relationship with Amanda blossomed, his wife became increasingly jealous – despite his own continued relationships with others – and asked him to end their marriage again.

“She asked me to end our marriage again. She even apologized for pressuring me to reopen it in the first place and admitted that she thought it would be different,” a- he declared, while explaining that he had refused to end the relationship.

“Your wife wanted to (have) her cake and eat it too”

In thousands of comments, people supported the man for refusing his wife’s request. “NTA (not the ******). Typical case. Your wife wanted (to have) her cake and (to) eat it too and fully expected to be able to sleep in and you don’t.”, said Choice_Pool_5971 .

DevilsAdvocate8008 agreed and said: “NTA. Your wife probably cheated on you and best case scenario she basically blackmailed you into an open relationship and when you find happiness she wants you to end it. She is very selfish and it’s not going to end well. Now that you have your confidence back, I think it’s time for you to consider divorce.

Sakent, on Reddit, said: “Your marriage is already over,” while Adept_Ad_473 added: “NTA. She is exercising control over the relationship in a way that hurts you, under threat of divorce. This doesn’t look like a romantic relationship (original poster), it looks like emotional manipulation.”

Angelika Koch, relationship and breakup expert at Taimi and certified life coach, said News week: “When a situation arises where the relationship is open and only one partner wishes to end the relationship, there needs to be a serious conversation about compatibility and negotiables versus non-negotiables.”

“There should never be a time when a person has to ‘give in’ to something they are not comfortable with, as it can impact their mental health and wellbeing. why communication is key in this kind of situation,” Koch said.

News week was unable to verify the details of this case.