Dear Annie: Should I confess my feelings or keep quiet about my work crush?

DEAR ANNIE: I have worked at this local government agency for years and have had the pleasure of working closely with “Catie” over the past four years. Although we are not in the same department, we have collaborated on many projects and have developed a close friendship.

As our friendship has progressed, I have grown to care deeply for Catie. I have sometimes expressed my feelings to her and she has been receptive to them. However, I have never accepted any physical advances, as we are both happily married.

Lately I have felt dishonest with her by not telling her directly about my feelings for her. I believe it is important to be open and honest with her about what I am going through and I would like to make a confession to clear my mind and conscience.

I hope you can give me some advice on how to approach this situation in a respectful manner. –Mutual Caring Friends

DEAR FRIENDS WHO GET ON WITH EACH OTHER: It’s interesting that you care so much about honesty with Catie, but deny your wife that same courtesy. If you really want to clear your conscience, ditch your work crush and start focusing on your “happy marriage.”

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