Woman refuses to share hotel room with husband's teenage brothers

A woman was thrilled when her mother-in-law invited her and her husband on a family vacation to Hawaii and even offered to pay for their hotel room.

Until the wife discovered that they would be sharing their room with none other than her husband’s teenage brothers. Needless to say, sharing a room with two hormonal teenagers who weren’t blood relatives made her uncomfortable.

The woman refused to share a room with her husband and two teenage brothers.

In a since-deleted Reddit post, the 24-year-old explained that she had been with her 24-year-old husband for six years and had been married for four years. The woman’s mother-in-law recently invited her and her husband to Hawaii for her family birthday vacation.

The mother-in-law further offered to pay for their hotel room. The woman and her husband agreed to leave, while continuing to pay for their own flights, food and entertainment.

“I have great relationships with all my in-laws,” the woman said in her message. “There is in no way an underlying issue with anyone here.”

Her mother-in-law recently sent her a message to “vaguely” inform her that she and her husband would be sharing a room. “My husband later confirmed that this meant we would be sharing accommodation with the two teenagers,” the woman wrote. “I’m not comfortable with it, to be honest.”

She said her mother-in-law suggested that she and her husband share a room with his teenage brothers on a previous vacation. However, the woman’s husband recognized it was an awkward arrangement and they paid for their own room.

The husband had difficulty understanding why his wife found this inappropriate.

“My husband said he didn’t understand what the problem was,” the woman said. “I really don’t feel comfortable sharing a room and bathroom with two teenagers for a week and I would absolutely pay out of pocket to avoid that.”

The woman revealed that everyone in her husband’s family is aware that one of her brothers seems to have a crush on her, which further adds to her discomfort.

“I don’t even wear a two-piece swimsuit around my in-laws because it makes me uncomfortable,” she said.

However, although they have the funds to pay for their own room, because the mother-in-law chose a military hotel and has already reserved the rooms, they will not be able to upgrade the room or get a separate one.

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The wife decided to discuss her feelings on the matter with her husband, but his response was not very encouraging. After editing the post to update the situation, she said he “reluctantly agreed” to talk about the arrangement with his mother.

“Her attitude towards me is that I’m a drama queen or making unreasonable demands. If this is how it has to be, I will remove myself from the trip completely,” the woman wrote. “I have laid out every reason why this is not appropriate, and he keeps telling me say it’s not that big of a deal Like, OK, it’s not that big of a deal for YOU, but it is for ME, and it should matter to my spouse.

Reddit users suggested she book her own room and let her husband room with his brothers.

“Husband probably just wants to hang out with them, and that’s great, but you shouldn’t have to,” one person commented on the post. “He can spend time bonding – you can have a hotel room all to yourself.”

“It’s completely reasonable to want privacy, especially when it comes to teenagers,” another person argued. “Your comfort matters, and whether paying for a separate bedroom makes you feel better is up to you.”

“I think the MIL wants free babysitters for her 2 teenagers so she and her husband can enjoy them and wants OP and her husband to be their babysitters so the teenagers don’t get in trouble “, another person deduced.

It is entirely reasonable that an adult married woman would want to have a separate bedroom from two teenage boys.

Whatever the mother-in-law’s intentions, the woman craves her own space and peace of mind, and few women would be too thrilled to share a hotel room with two teenage boys, especially in a destination like Hawaii.

Her husband may just want to spend quality time with his brothers in a free hotel room, but he doesn’t realize how inconvenient this arrangement is for his wife and it invalidates her feelings.

It is better for the wife to book her own room in another hotel if her husband refuses to pick her up. She will likely have a much more enjoyable time in the peace and quiet of her own space.

Francesca Duarte is a writer on YourTango’s news and entertainment team based in Orlando, Florida. She covers topics related to lifestyle, human interest, adventure and spirituality.