My husband doesn’t consider in-laws

My husband and I work in offices. Our families share agricultural backgrounds, and my family has faced hardship as my mother died prematurely and my father is ill and unable to do heavy labor. We both work and send money home every month to support our parents for medication and living expenses.

However, my husband’s main focus is on supporting his own family, not just his parents but also his sister and even his cousins. Every time it’s my mother’s death anniversary, he always uses his job as an excuse to avoid attending the memorial service, which makes me feel like he’s not treating my family with due respect. same respect as his.

I have no objection to my in-laws receiving financial support from my husband, but his siblings have high monthly incomes but still accept money from him. This makes me extremely frustrated, especially since my husband and I are not very wealthy and our office jobs simply provide us with a relatively above-average income.

I’m also upset that my husband never willingly gives my dad money or even calls him to check on him, while I call my in-laws every week to ask how they are doing . When I raised this issue with him, my husband responded that sons-in-law were not as responsible for taking care of both sides of the family as daughters-in-law, leaving me speechless.

My in-laws also dislike my father and criticize his accent as being difficult to understand. Every time my father calls, my mother-in-law diverts the call to my father-in-law, saying she doesn’t understand what my father is saying.

One day, when my mother-in-law was hospitalized, my father called her to check on her health. After a few sentences, she made up an excuse and hung up. My father told me about the incident and I felt incredibly sad, but I tried to encourage him nonetheless.

I have endured a difficult life, so I deeply appreciate my family and everything I have. Because of this, even though I know life isn’t perfect, I can’t help but feel sad.

Am I too hard on my in-laws and my husband?