He helped his financially struggling sister for a long time, but now he’s finally ready to move out and let her fend for herself » TwistedSifter

Living with other people as an adult can be difficult…especially if it’s your sibling!

So you can only imagine how the guy who wrote this story on Reddit “Am I the *******?” Page wants to get out of his current living situation with his sister.

Is he an idiot?

Read her story below and see what you think.

“I (34 years old) moved into my sister’s house (39 years old with 3 children) three and a half years ago, after she went through a difficult divorce.

I moved in because she was struggling financially and emotionally, I pay full rent ($2.3k) plus internet and some food about $3k after all.

He spends a LOT of money.

Moving in also increased my commute to 2 hours each way, so I’m not even counting the $800 | spend on gas and toll fees.

Two of the three children (13, 10, 4) are autistic, one of whom is non-verbal. My sister works nights ($40,000 a year), so I know she won’t be able to afford to live in the house we are currently renting.

Keep in mind she rented this house with her ex-husband, so they could afford it at some point. She will not ask for alimony from her ex and refuses to ask for government assistance.

This sounds like a bad situation.

She doesn’t do any maintenance in the house and it’s honestly a real mess, I pick up after myself but I think she should clean up after her kids.

My sister is extremely smart but horrible with money, I’ve probably given her close to $100,000 since I was an adult, not including the over $90,000 I’ve paid in rent to live with her.

He’s ready to get out of there.

She refuses to face her problems and just hides her head waiting for my father or me to come to her rescue. I reminded her of my plan to move in March 2025, she didn’t like it and said she didn’t want to talk about it.

I have a great career ($185,000/year) and I really want to start considering settling down and getting married, I also plan to move out of state or move away completely.

I chose not to have children and I feel like she needs to figure out her life. Coddling her and just saving her is clearly not helping her.

AlTA for wanting to move out and move on, knowing full well that it would negatively impact my nephew and nieces, and cause even more stress and depression for my sister?

Let’s see what Reddit users have to say.

This reader said he was NTA.

Another person had a lot to say.

This Reddit user chimed in.

Another person spoke up.

And this Reddit user didn’t hold back.

You have to cut the cord at some point…

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