Maid of Honor Says Bride Won’t Remove Photos of Her Without Hijab

• A woman serving as maid of honor in her friend’s wedding felt comfortable to remove her hijab in the company of other bridesmaids during a girls-only bachelorette trip
• Photos were taken that night, but the original poster (OP) believed they would be kept private, until she was tagged in photos on Instagram
• OP is being labeled as difficult for asking for the photos to be taken down, causing strife between her and the bride

A woman took to Reddit to find out if she was in the wrong after a sad situation while she was participating in her friend’s wedding.

The original poster (OP) shared her story in Reddit’s r/AmITheA—— subreddit, where she explained how she came into conflict with her lifelong best friend over the events at her bachelorette party.

OP began her post by explaining that as a Muslim woman, she chooses to wear a hijab.

“I cover my hair and most of my body. I do not judge those who don’t do the same, nor do I try to impose my beliefs onto others. Everyone will have their own personal journeys, and just as I know I’ m not perfect, I can’t judge others for it either,” she explains.

The 23-year-old traveled with friends to a women’s-only bachelorette party for her friend, whom she has known “since kindergarten.”

“She isn’t religious, but she accepts my views and was even going to let me wear a more modest style abaya as her maid of honor. This is to say Maya understands the hijab and what it means to me, or so I thought ,” she notes.

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OP explains that during the evening’s festivities, in the lead-up to everyone going to bed, she took off her hijab. The moment itself was uneventful and the night went on, and the women “watched a movie, took photos and videos, and generally had a good time.”

“I had no problems with the photos being taken, since my friends are usually respectful and don’t post them anywhere. It just stays in our group chat,” she explains. “We went to sleep, and the next day, everything was normal. We cleaned up and I drove home, finally checking my phone.”

When OP went on Instagram, she found she was tagged in photos on Maya’s public Instagram account, including ones where her hijab wasn’t on.

“I quickly messaged Maya, asking her to take it down before anyone else saw, as I couldn’t control whether or not some guy was going to see her post, and she refused, saying that there were no other good photos of her, “OP writes.

“I asked her to simply crop me out or even draw over my hair and neck but she said that it would look wrong and that I’m overreacting. I insisted I wasn’t and that she knew that I couldn’t show my hair to just anyone,” she continues.

“Instead of responding to me, she took it to the group chat as some sort of ‘counsel.’ Half of them agreed that she shouldn’t have posted a photo of me without my hijab and a couple others told me I was overreacting and no one cared besides me.”

Those who agreed with OP petitioned Maya to take the photos down. Though she initially stood her ground, an update reveals that her fiancé stepping into the conversation changed her perspective.

“He’s Christian, but from what I understand, his mother veils and he understands the rules around hijab a good bit. He felt bad and I had to reassure him that it wasn’t his fault and thanked him for talking to Maya for me. He asked if this whole situation would affect our friendship, and I told him I wasn’t sure in what way.”

Though OP says she’s since forgiven the bride, many commentators had strong feeling about the situation and the stance they feel she should have taken.

“She’s not your friend. If a friend of mine asked me to remove a photo with them in it, for WHATEVER reason, they’d be removed from the photo before the day ended. My friends can trust me 100% that I won’ t put them in a position that makes them uncomfortable,” one commenter wrote.

“But, at this point, you have no control. You can ask her to remove the photo, but you can’t control it. Learn from this and don’t trust her again. You can’t let your guard down around everyone .”

Another person added, “I am a hijabi who is MOH for one of my best friends who is non-Muslim. I also went on a bachelorette trip and there were tons of candids with me not wearing a hijab. I sent her your original post and she was livid on your behalf.”

The commentator continued, “I can’t even imagine what I would do if she did what your friend did. It was so insanely inappropriate of her to post those photos and downright despicable to not immediately take them down when you asked. You’re more forgiving than me.”