Woman Can’t Stop Thinking About What Man Said About Her Body On First Date

A woman has shared her unusual experience of a second date where the man “fetishized” her curves.

Alexa Aldridge (@alexa_eldridge) was on a date with a man when he asked her what her physical type was, to which he replied: blue eyes, blonde hair and curvy – exactly Alexa’s qualities.

He later revealed that he had always felt ashamed for liking women with their body type after growing up with a mother who criticized women’s bodies.

In a revelation recorded on TikTok that garnered 116,000 views and 5,265 likes, Alexa asked viewers if she was thinking too much about what happened or if she had been fetishized.

She shared what he said to her on TikTok: “My mother is very critical of women’s bodies and my ex-girlfriend saw that I followed a few curvier women on Instagram and approached me to this topic, and I’ve felt a lot of shame for a long time liking curvier women.

News week reached out to Alexa Eldridge for comment via Instagram.

In the moment, Alexa revealed that she supported the date so she could finally embrace her desires.

However, upon reflection, she wasn’t sure if the man’s outpouring was appropriate.

She said on the platform: “I was super supportive in the moment, but inside I’m like, ‘was I just being overtly fetishized?’

“I have never heard someone like me directly tell me at any point that someone who looked like me would be a dirty little secret to them.

“So, I didn’t really know how to take it, and I just couldn’t stop thinking about it.

“It’s one of the first dates he goes on with a woman he’s really attracted to and how taboo it was for him to date a woman who’s a size 10.”

According to the dating app Bumble, fetishization involves sexualizing an identity trait such as body type, race, and ethnicity. This can be extremely dehumanizing to the person receiving it.

Commentators weighed in on the woman’s dilemma, with many having sympathy for both sides.

London Gurl said: “I kind of feel both ways about this.

“I also have to unlearn my parents’ shame and try to develop a healthy relationship with food and my body and so much shame about a lot of things.”

Another said: “Maybe he just felt comfortable sharing? Everyone has a type and he’s honest and respectful.”

However, others pointed out that he should have kept the comment to himself.

One woman commented: “Inner thoughts, dude. Inner thoughts. »

Nina Sayers said: “I think you know how you feel and that feeling is absolutely valid because what the fuck man?!”

Alexa agreed and said she is an advocate for honesty, but at the right time and in the right place.