Chatty Sister Tells Kids About Her Checkered Past, So Now She's Not Sure She Wants To Spend Time With Her Nieces And Nephews » TwistedSifter

We’ve all been there, right?

Your sister’s kids think you’re the cool aunt, you bring them candy, and then boom, suddenly you’re a living example of a cautionary tale.

This girl’s sister used her past struggles as life lessons for her children, turning the messiness of her life into her parenting hack.

Very rude?

Read on for the full story.

I have always been close to my 38-year-old older sister. I enjoy spending time with her children and often help her in my free time.

Growing up wasn’t easy.

I juggled multiple jobs and worked hard to get to where I am today without ever asking anyone for financial help.

She used my past difficulties as examples for her children to avoid a lot of things lately.

She’ll say things like, “Look at your aunt. She had a hard time because she didn’t plan ahead. Make sure you study hard and get a good job so you don’t end up like her.”

Then she will wink at me as if to reassure me that it is for their own good.

This is disgusting.

What does she mean by “ending up like me”?

I know I’m not as successful as her and our other siblings, but I have a job and a place of my own.

I never asked them for money or needed to stay with them. I’m not rich, but I’m financially stable now.

It hurts me because I feel like she only focuses on the negative aspects and doesn’t recognize how far she’s come.

No kidding!

Last week, she asked me to sit down with her children to give them advice. During the conversation, she brought up a particular situation from my past as a lesson in “what not to do.”

A few years ago, I went through a difficult divorce that left me emotionally drained and took a toll on my well-being.

She used this difficult experience as a warning to her children, to caution them about the importance of making careful decisions in their relationships.

Every time I hear my personal experiences brought up in this way, I feel exposed and reduced to a lesson in what not to do.

What even?!

When I talked about it, I felt like my whole life was about that one mistake.

When I told him about it, I hoped to get some understanding.

She said she was simply trying to teach her children to be responsible and to learn from other people’s experiences.

She thinks it’s good that they hear about my failures so they can avoid similar situations.

Isn’t family great?

I told him that while I understood his point of view, constantly using my past as a negative example without acknowledging my successes seemed unfair.

I said that if she continues to paint me this way in front of her children, I will have to reconsider my involvement with them.

I’m afraid it might affect our relationship and how his kids think of me. But I think it’s already taken me a while to set some boundaries.

It’s understandable to want the best for your children, but using your sister’s past struggles as a warning may not be the most effective way to teach them.

From Reddit it’s pretty clear who the jerk is here.

The sister is basically terrible, this person says.