Bride Shocked After Late Husband’s Sister Asks For Her Wedding Jewelry During Engagement

After the bride’s husband tragically died years ago, she had their rings made into pendants. Now she just got engaged and her sister-in-law wants the necklace.

A bride is seeking help online after she says her late husband’s sister asked her to give up a meaningful piece of jewelry, made from her late husband’s wedding ring.

The 27-year-old bride shared a post on Reddit’s popular Am I the A——? For five months she was married to her high school sweetheart, he was tragically killed after a drunk driver hit his car.

After his death, she finally took their wedding rings to a jeweler to have them melted down and made into “a pendant and some small earrings.” Since then, she has worn the necklace every day in part because “I like the idea of ​​always having a tangible part of him with me.”

The woman explained that she finally started dating again and is now engaged after her 34-year-old boyfriend of two years proposed last week. After the proposal, she met her former sister-in-law who “congratulated” her on her new engagement before making a surprising proposal.

“…She then asked me if she could have my necklace because it would mean more to her as a sister than to me now that I was remarrying and moving on. Honestly, it surprised me that someone would flat out ask something like that,” the bride said.

She said she told her sister she would “think about” giving her the necklace, which was made from “a little emerald ring” they found “on vacation at a local jeweler.” She then asked her best friend for advice, who recommended she let go of the necklace.

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“She thinks I should probably give it to (the sister) because it would mean more to her, and that I should let go of everything from my old life and embrace my new one. She said I should buy a new necklace and make new memories, and that she would accompany me or I could ask my fiancé,” the bride said.

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The 27-year-old said that although she had “moved on” and was “completely happy” in her new relationship, she still felt obligated to keep the necklace as a memory of her former love. She added that her fiancé didn’t mind that she kept the necklace and that he “understands that I will always have some grief.”

“A part of (me) will always love and mourn my former husband and the life we ​​could have had together, and I don’t think that takes anything away from my new relationship. These are different loves and lives,” she noted.

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Several agreed that the woman should keep her necklace made from the wedding rings, including one person who wrote: “The necklace is yours and it is completely inappropriate for your former sister-in-law to ask for it.” I see nothing wrong with preserving the memory of someone who helped make you who you are.

“The rings were something that sealed your bond. Between you and him. Not anyone else, not him or his sister,” another person commented. “Even though the rings now form a necklace, they remain a reminder of the life you had together. Your past is your past and you are allowed to keep things from the past.

Others noted that it was “inappropriate” that her sister-in-law requested the item, including one who said: “I can’t even imagine asking someone for a memorial piece of jewelry that they made especially for himself. Completely inappropriate.

The bride shared in an update that she ultimately decided to keep the necklace and would follow the commenters’ advice in the post on how to give it to the sister.

“Because of our history, I want to give her the benefit of the doubt at first, but if she pushes the subject, I’ll have to make choices,” she explained. “I don’t know yet how I’m going to word it or if I want to say it over text or in person. But I will understand this.

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